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"If there's one thing I'm doing in 2019, it's to continue to
destigmatize talking about grief, death and cancer. My father shared his life
in public. I share it in death."
When Meghan McCain shared those words on Twitter, it was much more than
a New Year's resolution.
In actuality, it was a promise The View co-host wanted to share with her
fans and followers just one day before she celebrated her very first Christmas
without her dad, Senator John McCain.
"To all of you out there missing a loved one tonight—you are not
alone," she added. "I'm along side you, sending strength."
That strength has been visible for the past six months as Meghan has
tried to get back to normal—whatever that normal may be—after the Arizona
Senator passed away from brain cancer at 81.
While many grieve the loss of a loved one in private, Meghan and her
family had to mourn with America as republicans and democrats alike celebrated
the life of a war hero and "maverick" of the United States senate.
For some, they will never forget John's funeral where politicians
including Barack Obama and George W. Bush came together and listened intently
as Meghan remembered her dad.
"My father was a great man. He was a great warrior. He was a great
American. I admire him for all of these things, but I love him because he was a
great father," she shared during the service broadcast across the country.
"For the rest of my life, whenever I fall down, I get back up. Whenever I
am hurt, I drive on. Whenever I am brought low, I rise. That is not because I
am virtuous, strong, resilient; it is simply because my father, John McCain,
was."
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Over the past six months, Meghan has certainly made her father proud as
she returned to work at The View where she brings her voice to the panel that
includes Whoopi Goldberg, Abby Huntsman, Joy Behar and Sunny Hostin.
But in between discussing "Hot Topics" and interviewing
everyone from politicians to reality stars, Meghan has found a way to spark a
conversation about grieving that hasn't been talked about before.
When looking on Meghan's social media pages, you will likely find
throwback photos with her family. What comes next are honest, candid, real
feelings that many can relate to when going through the grieving process.
"I still miss you every hour. Time feels slow, like being
underwater—I try and fill the days distracting myself from how painful it all
still is. I cannot believe how intense it all still feels—isn't it supposed to
start easing up by now? It hasn't," Meghan wrote on Instagram 139 days
after her father's passing. "Grief keeps a tight and relentless
stranglehold. I replay my last few days with you over and over again in my head
wishing I had said or done something more or different, I wish I could somehow
have stopped death from coming. It doesn't get easier, I just continue to try
to adapt to the amputation and keep moving, breathing, living, fighting."
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Meghan's first Election Day and Veteran's Day without her father was
difficult. The best-selling author revealed from John's grave site that Sundays
are when she misses him "the most." And then there are the ordinary
rituals that become extraordinary when a loved one passes away.
"66 days. I wake up every morning still instinctually trying and
reaching to call you on the phone. I miss you so much Dad it physically hurts
my heart. I miss your laugh, your voice, your dark sense of humor, the way you
always made me feel safe in a world that seems to have lost its way. I miss
your dry ribs and grilled chicken. I miss you singing The Beach Boys on the
porch," Meghan shared in a separate Instagram post. "I miss waking up
and drinking cappuccino and reading the New York Times together. I miss your
old far side t-shirts and watching John Wayne movies. I miss hiking across the
creek to the top of the mountain and watching the black hawks. I miss the way
you cooked eggs and bacon. I love you forever. Stay with me."
For some, all of the personal stories and memories have been too much to
handle. A few have tweeted at Meghan suggesting she "do this in
private." When Meghan responds, the individuals have a habit of suddenly
deleting their not-so-nice messages.
But when one follower told Meghan "you are not that special,"
The View co-host couldn't help but explain her mindset.
"I don't believe I am special—far from it. There are many of us who
are in grief and have lost those they love so deeply," she explained.
"But it makes me feel less alone and hopefully others less alone to share
the grief process that is still so taboo to some."
In a recent interview with Porter magazine, Meghan shared that she
is in therapy and counseling. She's tried mediating and has been reading
several books from Joan Didion.
When returning to The View for the first time, Meghan thanked all of her
co-hosts for constantly supporting her. She also gave credit to Joe Biden, Joe
Lieberman and her faith for keeping her mentally strong.
"God is real, I wouldn't be here without my faith," she shared
from the New York City studio.
But perhaps her open and honest messages about grief are the ultimate
signs of strength: strength her father instilled in her for 34 special years.
"He made me this tough so I would survive this," Meghan shared
on The View. "Some men raise their daughters to be seen and not heard.
They raise their daughters not to speak out."
"Raise strong women," she continued. "Really, it's the
only thing that is keeping me right now is how tough he made me and he did that
and I love him."
02
Ravens News 2/23: WR worth pursuing,
draft class heroes and more
Ravens are in very good hands if Eric
DeCosta’s early returns as new GM continue - Jason La Canfora
But, in actuality, the Young signing and the Flacco trade are indicative
of a new approach being spearheaded by longtime Ravens exec Eric DeCosta in his
first few months taking over as general manager for legendary Ozzie Newsome.
And if the Ravens get their way, their recent overtures to linebacker Matt
Judon and defensive tackle Michael Pierce will result in contracts as well,
with league sources indicating the team is actively trying to extend them as
well as Mosley (and Baltimore will be wise to lock up restricted free agent
linebacker Patrick Onwuasor).
Give DeCosta high marks for managing, somehow, to get a
high-fourth-round pick for Flacco at a time when the quarterback market has
more supply than demand, and for getting Young locked up. And you can expect
him to continue to press to reshuffle this roster and take money from aging
players on the way out and use it to buy relatively low on players who the team
still retains rights to. Take from descending players to give to ascending
players. Makes perfect sense to me.
DeCosta has major decisions to make this offseason at nearly every
position on the roster.
Ten receivers worth pursuing via
trade/free agency/NFL draft - Reggie Wayne
4) Tyrell Williams, free agent
Williams was often overlooked on the Chargers, playing alongside guys
like Keenan Allen and Mike Williams, but the free agent has a knack for getting
in the end zone, with 16 touchdown receptions since 2016. He can catch in
traffic and is a huge downfield threat. Williams, who will enter his fifth NFL
season in the fall, has the ability to be a No. 1 receiver on several teams.
There’s definitely a market for him.
10) Donte Moncrief, free agent
My former teammate in Indy was able to avoid injury with the Jaguars in
2018 to play a full 16-game slate for the first time since 2015. His numbers
aren’t off the charts, but the 25-year-old has real upside. If he can learn to
be a consistent player who brings it every day, Moncrief has the potential to
help an offense take the next step.
While Tyrell Williams can certainly stretch the field, it remains to be seen
if he can maintain his production if he receives more attention from defenses.
Moncrief retains untapped potential and could be a cheaper signing.
DRAFT CLASS HEROES: NFL COMBINE
PREVIEW - Jon Ledyard
Running Backs
Most To Prove: David Montgomery, RB, Iowa State
Montgomery clearly has some important strengths for a running back on
tape, but his athleticism has been called into question by many evaluators over
the past year. If he can put those concerns to bed, he’s likely to be one of
the top backs off the board.
Sleeper: James Williams, RB, Washington State
I don’t know that many of the sleeper running backs will test well, but
Williams should hold his own in all the workouts, while also catching the ball
at an elite level compared to the rest of the running backs in positional
drills. No back in college football has had the receiving impact that Williams
has the past few seasons.
Safety
Most To Prove: Deionte Thompson, Alabama
There is a long list of safety prospects I could put in this spot, but
Thompson’s stock has slid in the media after a few poor plays to end his 2018
season. Does the NFL feel the same way? They definitely will if he runs a 4.6
in Indy.
Sleeper: Marquise Blair, Utah
It feel like no one is talking about Blair, but I think he’s the type of
player the NFL will consider in the 60-100 range of the draft. His athleticism
needs to check out however, which I would expect given his explosiveness and
apparent long speed on tape. Maybe some buzz on Blair gets going after Indy.
The scouting combine gives teams an opportunity to rank players grouped
in similar tiers.
03
Cuomo budget director hands out blame
for abandoned Amazon project (LETTER)
In a lengthy open letter released on Friday afternoon, State Budget
Director Robert Mujica blamed the Retail, Wholesale and Department Store Union,
Queens politicians and the Senate Democrats for Amazon’s decision to abandon
plans for a headquarters in New York.
The full text of the letter is available below.
Much of the letter rehashes the alleged role Senate Democrats played in
the collapse of the deal, which Cuomo highlighted earlier in the day during an
interview with WAMC. But Mujica also assigned blame to RWDSU, which he accused
of trying to exploit the tech company’s plans for New York.
He outlined how the union funded protests to oppose the Amazon
headquarters as part of a larger negotiation ploy to organize workers at Whole
Foods, a subsidiary of Amazon. “It backfired,” Mujica wrote.
Additionally, Mujica raised questions about the legality of some of the
protests allegedly funded by the union.
“Ironically, much of the visible ‘local’ opposition, which was happy to
appear at press conferences and protest at City Council hearings during work
hours, were actuality organizers paid by one union: RWDSU. (If you are
wondering if that is even legal, probably not),” Mujica wrote.
A spokesperson from the union did not immediately respond to an email
requesting comment.
The letter doesn’t spare the Cuomo administration either (we add
sarcastically), with Mujica acknowledging they could have done more to
communicate what a great deal New Yorkers were getting.
“We assumed the benefits to be evident,” he wrote.
“As just about everyone in this state, if not the country, knows by now,
Amazon has terminated its plans to bring its second headquarters to New York
State. It is a tremendous loss for New Yorkers and I hope that at a minimum, we
understand the lessons learned.
“In my 23 years in the State Capitol, three as Budget Director,
Amazon was the single greatest economic development opportunity we have had.
Amazon chose New York and Virginia after a year-long national competition with
234 cities and states vying for the 25,000-40,000 jobs. For a sense of scale,
the next largest economic development project the state has completed was for
approximately 1,000 jobs. People have been asking me for the past week
what killed the Amazon deal. There were several factors.
“First, some labor unions attempted to exploit Amazon’s New York entry.
The RWDSU Union was interested in organizing the Whole Foods grocery store
workers, a subsidiary owned by Amazon, and they deployed several ‘community
based organizations’ (which RWDSU funds) to oppose the Amazon transaction as
negotiation leverage. It backfired. Initially, Whole Foods grocery stores had
nothing to do with this transaction. It is a separate company. While Amazon is
not a unionized workforce, Amazon had agreed to union construction and service
worker jobs that would have provided 11,000 thousand union positions.
“New York State also has the most pro-worker legal protections of any
state in the country. Organizing Amazon, or Whole Foods workers, or any company
for that matter, is better pursued by allowing them to locate here and then
making an effort to unionize the workers, rather than making unionization a bar
to entrance. If New York only allows unionized companies to enter, our economy
is unsustainable, and if one union becomes the enemy of other unions, the
entire union movement – already in decline – is undermined and damaged
“Second, some Queens politicians catered to minor, but vocal local
political forces in opposition to the Amazon government incentives as
‘corporate welfare.’ Ironically, much of the visible ‘local’ opposition, which
was happy to appear at press conferences and protest at City Council hearings
during work hours, were actuality organizers paid by one union: RWDSU. (If you
are wondering if that is even legal, probably not). Even more ironic is these
same elected officials all signed a letter of support for Amazon at the Long
Island City location and in support of the application. They were all for it
before Twitter convinced them to be against it.
“While there is always localized opposition, in this case it was taken
to a new level. The State Senate transferred decision-making authority to a
local Senator, who, after first supporting the Amazon project, is now
vociferously opposed to it, and even recommended appointing him to a State
panel charged with approving the project’s financing. Amazon assumed that the
hostile appointment doomed the project. Of course the Governor would never
accept a Senate nomination of an opponent to the project and the Governor told
that to Amazon directly. The relevant question for Amazon then became
whether the Senate would appoint an alternative who would approve the
project.
“As newspapers have reported, Amazon called the Senate Leader and asked
if she would appoint an alternative appointee who would support the
project. The Senate would not commit to an alternative appointee
supporting Amazon. That was the death knell. No rational company,
or person for that matter, would assume the Senate would flip flop from
appointing a staunch opponent of the project to appointing a supporter of the
project. It defies logic. However, if that was their plan, Amazon
needed a direct representation to that effect from the Senate. It never
came. Indeed, to this day, the Senate has never said they would appoint a
member who would support the project. Companies assume
rational, logical behavior and cannot spend months and millions of dollars on
approvals if ultimately the road is a dead end.
“Furthermore, opposing Amazon was not even good politics, as the
politicians have learned since Amazon pulled out. They are like the dog that
caught the car. They are now desperately and incredibly trying to explain their
actions. They cannot. They are trying to justify their flip-flopping on the
issue with false accusations that it was a ‘backroom deal.’ Let’s remember that
as a condition of the competition, every bid was sealed to prevent governments
from altering their bids to be more competitive. Empire State Development
supported the numerous local applications in the state who wanted to bid for
HQ2, but on the condition that the local elected officials and community
supported it, and Long Island City was no exception.
“In working with New York City, we advanced Long Island City’s
application with the signed support of the area’s local elected officials,
including State Senator Mike Gianaris and New York City Councilman Jimmy Van
Bramer. Both Gianaris and Van Bramer flip-flopped on this position after Long
Island City was chosen, distorting the facts of the agreement and
mischaracterizing the tax subsidies as ‘a cash giveaway.’ Now that Amazon has
pulled out, local politicians are feeling the backlash from the project’s
previously silent supporters and are dissembling. Local senators’ claims that their
phone calls were not returned are particularly offensive, given that the local
senator was the first person ESD President and CEO Howard Zemsky met with when
we made the HQ2 announcement. I also remained in contact with him about the
project as the State Budget Director, and he refused to sit on the community
engagement board or even meet with Amazon representatives. Efforts were made to
address legitimate concerns, all of which were ignored.
“Third, in retrospect, the State and the City could have done more to
communicate the facts of the project and more aggressively correct the
distortions. We assumed the benefits to be evident: 25,000-40,000 jobs
located in a part of Queens that has not seen any significant commercial
development in decades and a giant step forward in the tech sector, further
diversifying our economy away from Wall Street and Real Estate. The polls
showing seventy percent of New Yorkers supported Amazon provided false comfort
that the political process would act responsibly and on behalf of all of their
constituents, not just the vocal minority. We underestimated the effect of the
opposition’s distortions and overestimated the intelligence and integrity of
local elected officials.
“Incredibly, I have heard city and state elected officials who were
opponents of the project claim that Amazon was getting $3 billion in government
subsidies that could have been better spent on housing or transportation. This
is either a blatant untruth or fundamental ignorance of basic math by a group
of elected officials. The city and state ‘gave’ Amazon nothing. Amazon was to
build their headquarters with union jobs and pay the city and state $27 billion
in revenues. The city, through existing as-of-right tax credits, and the state
through Excelsior Tax credits – a program approved by the same legislators
railing against it – would provide up to $3 billion in tax relief, IF Amazon
created the 25,000-40,000 jobs and thus generated $27 billion in revenue. You
don’t need to be the State’s Budget Director to know that a nine to one return
on your investment is a winner.
“The seventy percent of New Yorkers who supported Amazon and now vent
their anger also bear responsibility and must learn that the silent majority
should not be silent because they can lose to the vocal minority and
self-interested politicians.
“It was wrong to manage this issue as if it were a single legislator’s
political prerogative on a local matter. This was not a traffic signal or local
zoning issue. Losing the Amazon project was not just a blow to Queens County,
it hurt the whole State from Long Island to the Capitol Region’s nanotechnology
corridor to the emerging Panasonic plant in Buffalo, and it was a bad
reflection on every single local elected official. Legislators must realize
there is a difference between playing politics and responsibly governing.
“Progressive politics and policies have been the signature of Governor
Cuomo’s administration. No state in the nation has more progressive
accomplishments, and being the most progressive state in the nation means
having the most stringent and aggressive protections and policies in place. We
are proud that our values create a stronger, healthier, fairer work
environment, but we shouldn’t kid ourselves about how they impact our
competitiveness when businesses consider where to locate. We are also proud of
the unprecedented investments we make in education, healthcare, infrastructure
and housing, but in order to fund them, we need a sustained tax base.
“As the political debate rages in this country, the Governor reminds us
of the facts that ‘to be a progressive, there must be progress.’ The creation
of opportunity and jobs is the engine that pulls the train and, as he also
often says, ‘the best social program is still a job.’ Without a tax base we are
not financially able to achieve the laudable goals we seek.
“Make no mistake, at the end of the day we lost $27 billion,
25,000-40,000 jobs and a blow to our reputation of being ‘open for business.’
The union that opposed the project gained nothing and cost other union members
11,000 good, high-paying jobs. The local politicians that catered to the
hyper-political opposition hurt their own government colleagues and the
economic interest of every constituent in their district. The true local
residents who actually supported the project and its benefits for their
community are badly hurt. Nothing was gained and much was lost. This should
never happen again.”
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